In the olden days, hardly you see a young woman packs her belongings to stay with a man in the name of marriage.
Marriage was then honourable according Hebrews 13:4, beds were not defiled until proper handover of the damsel to the husband but the society of today, the reverse is the case. It is no longer the honourable, but to sell yourself cheap to any man who just open his mouth in prevent of free sex for marriage.
African culture was one that cherishes the act in a very unique way. But today civilization has ruined the respect, Africans have for their culture. Our culture as Africans is against this kind of lifestyle.
Cohabitation is a situation whereby a man and woman or a boy and a girl stay together under one roof without fulfilling the requirements of marriage. It is unacceptable both to man and to God. This act is fast growing in our society today.
Marriage is a true commitment and many men know it, so they wouldn’t want to be committed to it when they are not ready to make such a vow.
Some people believed living together would increase their odds of doing well in marriage.
Even on campuses, it is common, where a girl will pack her things to stay with her boyfriend, cook for him and wash his clothes, living as husband and wife. Some of the boys also move from their place to be accommodated by the girls.
Ladies who cohabit do not know that they don’t have respect for their families.
The respect and honour you have as young woman is that a man is coming to your house to ask for your hand in marriage. If your bed is defiled, there is no honour in that marriage again. Even the man in question that accepted cohabiting with him, peradventure, he marries you, will not trust you because the regard has been sold on his bed.
If we can really be sincere ourselves, we will see that cohabiting ladies contribute more than 70 percent of the relations income because men that will give consent to cohabitation are men who try to run away from responsibilities and cohabiting women often end up with the responsibilities of the marriage.
Couples in such a relationship may grow apart in the long run, if they lived together for the wrong reasons. This is one bad side of couple cohabiting.
Women Focus is using this medium to call the attention of the young women to take themselves serious so that others (men) will take themselves serious also. How you dress is how people will address you.
A man can only be fast to come and make you proud as a wife, when you are not cohabiting with because he will want to make the mistake of leaving you for another man. But if you are living with him already, he will feel that why would he be motivated to get married to you when you are living with him already for a long. In his mind, he is thinking that the only thing that will change after marriage is your last name. A man can only be interested to marry you when he is not close to you and long to be with you, your distance from him would make him make commitment.
You have heard the old expression, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? “ It’s an ugly phrase, but there’s some truth to the message. Living together results in regular, no-strings sex for especially a man, thus removing the sexual motivation that is part of a marriage proposal. And don’t worry about his proposing just to bed you; there are too many sexually available women out there for a man to propose marriage just for sexual release.
Don’t compromise your standard because you want to get marry to a certain person. The boundaries you keep in a relationship will help to keep your marriage tomorrow. Remember moving into a man house minus marriage commitment is just giving in too easy to your man and can result to breakage of relationship.
If you have kids, they need to be protected; very few unmarried couples who have children end up staying together in other words. Without the commitment of marriage, there is no real guarantee of what can happen to your kids. Many kids end up being molested and abused by their parents’ partner just because most of these partners don’t see themselves as parents to the kids of their unmarried partners. Of these couples that do keep their relationships intact until their children are grown, 93 percent of them are legally married.
As a lady cohabiting with a man, have you consider one, peradventure, you have invest so much and the man decided to be funny, what will be your fate? That’s why we Africans always have the honour of coming to ask for our hands in marriage, so that incase of anything, we automatically become your responsibility.
Ladies, be careful. The way you sell your goods is how people will it. The provisions that are sold in the market place are the same things that are sold in the supermarket but the difference is the environment. ###
EDITH NSE FRIDAY
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