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Dealing With Hurt: Forgive And Forget (1)

Over the years, one of the things I have seen numerous Christians have a problem with, was letting fully go of some of the sins of their past. And not only could some of them not let fully go of some of their own past sins, but they also could not let go of some of the sins from others who were very close to them such as their spouses, parents, children and some of their close, personal friends. They knew God had fully forgiven both them and their other friends and family members due to the blood that Jesus has already shed for those sins, but they still had a very hard time in letting all of them fully go. They would constantly keep bringing up the past on both themselves and others, and would just keep harping on it and not let it fully go. As a result of not being able to let the sins of their past fully go, they ended up with a very negative type of thinking in their minds and thus were not very pleasant to be around with due to all of the negative energy they were carrying around on them. I am sure most of you know Christians who are still doing this on a regular basis.
I have really seen this occur in many marriages, where one or both spouses keep bringing up the sinful past of their spouse, even though they know full well that God has already fully forgiven their spouse for the sins that have been confessed and repented of. I have heard many of them say that they can forgive their spouse for what they had done in their past, but they just can’t forget about it and let it fully go. As a result, this causes them to hang on to the sins of the past, dragging both them and anyone else who may be close to them down into this negative and morbid type of thinking. For those of you are still doing this with the Lord either with yourself or someone else you may be close to there is one very special, powerful verse that is back in the OT on what God will want you to do with any sins that are not only in your past, but also any sins that may be in the past of people who may be very close to you like your spouse, parents, and any of your children or personal friends.
Bottom line on all of this the blood of Jesus Christ will cover every single sin that a man or a woman can ever commit in this life with the exception of the sin of blaspheming the Holy Spirit. The blood that Jesus has already shed for all of us on the cross will thus fully wash away every single sin that we have ever committed in this life. If a person has fully confessed out their particular sin against the Lord and has fully repented of it, then the blood that Jesus has already shed for them will wash them fully clean of that particular sin and that sin will then be fully forgiven by God the Father. And if that sin has been fully forgiven by God the Father, then we need to let that sin fully go and not keep harping on it and keep bringing it back up, either for ourselves if the sins were ours to begin with, or if the sins were in the past of someone else we are close to.
As Christians, we already know all of this. However, there is one more verse that you really need to add into this mix so you can get the full effect of what God the Father will be asking you to do on any past sins you may be dealing with. In our article titled, “God Will Forgive All of Your Sins,” we give you many of the main verses from the Bible on how God will fully forgive you of your sins if you will just confess them out to Him. But there is one special verse in that mix that I wanted to draw out for you and put in this article if there are any of you who are still battling with this kind of nagging problem with the Lord. And that one special verse is telling us that in addition to God fully forgiving us of all our sins, that God will also not remember any of our sins once He has fully forgiven them. God will obviously always have full memory of every thing that we have ever done in this life since His knowledge and memory of all things is completely perfect. But what this verse is telling us is that if God is no longer going to want to remember any of our past sins once they have been fully washed away by the blood of Jesus, then we need to do the exact same thing for both ourselves, anyone else who may be close to us, and any strangers who have trespassed against us.
We too will obviously never forget the sins of our past since our memories will store everything that has ever happened to us. But what God wants us to do based upon the wording of this special verse is to let those sins go and not keep bringing them back up for either yourself or those who are close to you. This is now water under the bridge and we do not need to keep reminding ourselves or others of these forgiven and forgotten sins, since this is now how God views our past sins and mistakes. By constantly dwelling on these past sins and throwing them back in the faces of those who are close to you will just make it that much harder to get over them and get on with the rest of your life in the Lord. As we explained in our article titled, “Letting Go of Your Past,” there just comes a time where each Christian has to let the baggage of their past go, which will include all of their past sins. You cannot keep holding on to some of these past sins. If you do, you will end up carrying around a 50 pound anchor around your soul which will end up driving you and everyone else around you nuts.
This is way too much negative energy to be carrying around on you, and this kind of excess baggage has to be cut off. It is not, it will severely hamper your walk and your divine destiny with the Lord. This kind of negative energy will also affect and contaminate anyone else who may be close to you. And before you know it, no one is going to want to be around you, as most people do not want to be around this kind of negative energy. It is just too draining and too oppressive to be around. For those of you who are still having a hard time in fully letting go of some of your past sins for either yourself or someone else who is close to you like your spouse or parents, even though you know God has fully forgiven either you or that someone else, really study and meditate on this one very special and powerful verse I will now give you. Again, this verse is back in the OT and many Christians are not aware of this particular verse. Here it is: “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted.” (Isaiah 43:25-26) When God is using this kind of extreme and intense wording in a particular verse, this means He wants you to really grab a hold of the revelation and knowledge that is in this kind of verse. And if God is no longer going to want to remember your past sins, then you need to do likewise with both yourself and others in your life. And constantly thinking about and bringing up your past sins, or the past sins of others who are close to you, is not abiding by what God is doing for all of us in this verse. Not done read part two.

Dr. Lewis Akpogena
E-mail: akpogena@yahoo.com

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